Love Or Facebook?

Love Or Facebook

(Is It Possible To Have Both?)

Written By Jayi Kemp

Jkempga419@gmail.com

So its start out innocent, you are using it for it’s attend purposes, you have marked you’re in a relationship, posted photos of the kids in a album and everybody on your Facebook (www.facebook.com) page is either a old school mate, co – worker, or member of your church right? Well then who are Johnny Appleseed and Suzy Biscuits?

Facebook has a way of expanding someone’s social network, a(n) individual may have started off with just family and friends, but after some time spent updating your status and receiving a couple of Likes or Comments on your thoughts, you find yourself engaging in conversation with people you never meet before.

And that’s when it happens, the moment I like to refer to as; your moment of conception! You go from using Facebook to keep in touch with family and friends to discussing your thoughts in notes, promoting your business/event in a invite, and annoying the heck out of everyone who liked your business, music, or blog page on Facebook, because you want to email them 20 times in one day encouraging them to come to club blah blah for Facebook Fridays!

Yes Facebook has a way of blossoming someone’s social status (or so they think) but is that necessarily a good thing? How about the individuals who were in loving families, like the scenario I refer to earlier, is Facebook really appropriate for that person? I don’t know, truthfully I like to think it is not Facebooks purpose or plan to regulate itself to one, but more so the person who needs to regulate themselves on Facebook.

Think about it, is Facebook ever really a need? Can one’s life continue on if Facebook suddenly looses its popularity with everyone like Myspace (www.myspace.com) did? I think so, so why are people losing so much to keep Facebook in their life, it’s like a sickness without a remedy for it, I have literally witness couples break up because of Facebook.

She reunited with her high school sweetheart while being married thanks in part to Facebook, and he lost interest in his current girlfriend while Poking random cuties on Facebook. Move over Finances, make way for Facebook on why couples get a divorce on that pie chart, because marriages/relationships are dwindling down, well spiraling down faster than the economy due to individuals neglecting their significant other so that they may update their statues.

Personally I think Facebook has its good and bad things about it, but I am making reference to the fact that one can say basically anything in their status update and it will be posted unlike Blackplanet (www.blackplanet.com) but then I am limited to the design and profile themes too personalize my page  like I can do on Twitter (www.twitter.com).  Facebook is a tool, a option, a device I can use to share my thoughts (like I am doing now) but Facebook is not at fault (in my opinion) as to why my relationship is crumbling or is no more, that’s due to me being neglectful.

If I was to show Facebook and the friends I have on Facebook more love and devotion then I do my lady, then how could I not expect her not to be jealous and act a little irrational. In life we have to prioritize and put emphasis on what matters most, true, true indeed, one should be able to have a life outside of their relationship, but when that life outside of the relationship is becoming more appealing then the relationship that has been there before hand, I think one should really consider their actions and think to themselves, can I have both?