Saying I forgive you is easier then actually doing it (the invisible line)

Forgiving someone is not as easy as it looks ...

Saying I forgive you is easier then actually doing it (the invisible line)

Written By: Jayi Kemp

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Anytime you have a man, women, or whatever combination of the 2 forming together to make a union, it is safe to say you will have some bad times, for some these times will be enduring and they will see it through, but for others it will be difficult and non - salvageable.

Relationships are challenging, and at times difficult to repair once an infraction occurs. My advice to all would be this; use common sense, but then, why should people exercise “sense” when love is anything but a fantasy one wants to get lost in?

Disbelief

Loving somebody is the equivalent to being high on THC to me, love is such a delight, but just like all good things love has repercussion and consequences to it, and usually people do not tend to see the bitter side of love until they have crossed the invisible line!

What is the invisible line? The invisible line is what people tend to refer to as respect. When one person respects another person they try not to hurt their feelings on purpose most of the time, that’s not saying it is not going to occur, however it is stating that it was not intentional.

The Guilt 

And with that statement I ask anyone this; how is it possible to forgive someone verbally, but never forgive them sincerely for crossing that invisible line? Why would one say it is okay, when in all actuality it really is not, making people suffer for the pain they have brought to you is understandable, I am sure most of us have been in this position before, but is it right?

Not forgiving someone does not make you a bad person; it just means you’re not over the hurt yet. Forgiving people takes time, and sometimes you cannot just rub it off, if that man hit you and you haven’t gotten over it, cool, if she cheated on you and you can’t stand the site of her face, awesome!

But just be honest, in today’s society why should one have to conform to what another person or group feels is appropriate? If you feel it in your heart, then I suggest you say it, but if you don’t feel it in your heart then just inform them you’re not forgiven and be done! In my opinion there is no sense in giving someone hope, a shot at redemption, or peace of mind if you sincerely do not mean it and by forgiving someone of their wrong doings (and not being real with yourself), your ultimately doing that!

So ask you this, why forgive someone when you know you’re not ready too?